Meeting Point- The Ex Boyfriend

One of the biggest nightmares one could face is the moment you run into an ex. Even though life isn’t a romantic comedy where everyone always has the perfect hair and the best dialogue for that dreadful moment, there are ways to leave the impression you desire. Being the desirable and independent woman, who doesn’t need him.

If it is possible, go prepared.

If you haven’t seen your ex in over a year and suddenly you are both invited to the wedding of a mutual friend, it is natural to want to look as sexy as ever (even if the break-up was a mutual agreement). You shall go out and buy a little Black dress just for the occasion; not for him, for your confidence (ok, and his reaction when he sees you).

Don’t remember the past.

By making a list titled “things we could talk about” sounds a bit pathetic, but it is better than running into him unprepared. So, have a back-up script ready, especially to avoid reminiscing about your common past and to things you’ve done together.

Have Confidence.

The last thing you want to show him is that you are a mess from the moment you split up and nothing good has occurred in your miserable life. Think off all the positives that have taken place since, and summarize them in a brief monologue, if he asks how things are going. Obviously it is ok to exaggerate a bit.

Remember why you broke up.

Your memory plays games, and it’s a fact that we have the tendency to remember the good times and overlook negative situations. Thus, when seeing him after a period of time, you may begin to think you want that person back. The first thing to do is remember the reason of your separation and immediately ask yourselves if that individual has changed enough to overlook the reason.

Don’t mention your new Boyfriend.

If you were the one to break things off, you are in a way in a more dynamic position. Avoid mentioning your new person even if your ex asks. Play it cool and indifferent without giving a straight answer. Though, if they broke it off with you, again there is no need to talk enthusiastically about your new partner; that makes one look desperate trying to be the top dog. Just state that things are going well and immediately change the subject.

Don’t over drink.

You may feel that you are over them, that you are on top of your game and that that glass of wine will help sooth your nerves and help you go even higher. Though there is always another possibility, of you either loosing all your cool or even worse waking up next to them once again.

Don’t have sex with him.

Even if he states he is leaving the country, or from this planet, don’t give in to temptation...not even for a final goodbye. You will be the ones dragging yourselves once more to get over him all over again.

Show your positive self.

It may be the case that in your little world the glass is not just half empty, it is drained and broken. However, now you are called to play the part of the girl who changed her ways. Wear your sweetest smile and say a positive mantra to yourself of how “everything is going to go well, I can do it”. Now enjoy the surprise painted on his face.

Don’t forget his negative features.

The fact that you are faced with a stylish and seductive man does not mean his ways have improved. He may still be the one who never took the trash out or flirted with your friends. Focus on all the bad moments and they will help you realize that you are better with out him.

Be your own cheerleader.

So you’ve survived the dreadful meeting and you now feel even after all this you still want to meet up, STOP. Before giving in, remember all the good things that you have accomplished on your own and all positives that have happened to you without him by your side. Just think that you truly don’t need him And if all else fails you could always send that text another time, when you wont be so overwhelmed and things will be much more clear.